I love short haired girls.
There’s just something about them I can’t seem to ignore.
Chaewon, Ramona Flowers, Mia Wallace.
I just can’t take my eyes off of them when they appear, almost like there’s a magnet between me and them.
But, to be honest, I prefer long haired women, and I always have.
Instead of me liking them for being pretty, I admire them because they’re different.
My love for short haired girls actually says a lot more about humans than you think, and this is how you can use it to your advantage.
Why They Attract Attention
Out of every 10 women, count how much short haired girls you meet.
Based on my own test, I saw just one girl with short hair, and that was it.
Try it for yourself and see how much you see, (or if you’re a woman yourself, count the amount of long haired guys you see).
Which, the same goes for long haired men.
They attract without having to say or do anything. Almost like they have some sort of charisma around them.
This is called The Von Restorff Effect.
Our brain instinctively remembers something more when it stands out from the rest.
It doesn’t matter if you think they look good, just the mere fact that they’re different attracts the brain.
The brain lights up when discovering something new, like a shot of dopamine.
That’s why we get bored of songs after 50 repeats, or why we get bored of repetitive classes.
This effect is the reason why we go through so many trends a year, so many “eras”, and so many different fashion styles.
It’s the exact same with hair.
Since we’re so accustomed to women with long hair, and men with short hair, seeing people with the opposite is so refreshing.
Why We Want To Be Different
In the middle of covid stood a little 10 year old boy who wanted to be different so badly.
That boy was me.
I read books above my reading level, I listened to indie songs, and I even went bald.
All of this I did just for one thing; wanting to be different.
Humans love novelty, and not just to enjoy it, but to own it.
We want to be “the smart kid”, “the emo kid”, or even “the fat kid.”
It’s not enough to hear a new sound; we want to be the one who discovered it first.
Like for me, I told everyone about a little known indie artist named Clairo, and another one called Beabadoobee.
Once they got famous though, I got pissed.
They were supposed to be my little secret, I was supposed to be the only one who knew them.
Just like how we seek being different, in turn we want to be the one who’s different.
Basically, being different refreshes the brain, being the one who’s different refreshes the soul.
Our brains like the novelty, but our identities love the statement. And that makes the attraction irresistible.
The Power Of Rebellion
Around 2 months ago, my school had a new student, who I’ll call Anne, join.
Anne was enlisting as your average student, but immediately she caught people’s attention.
Why? Because she had an Australian dad and orange hair.
Everyone rolled her eyes at her, and people kept making fun of her.
But everyone making fun of her said something, that she was occupying everyone’s mind 24/7.
She wasn’t any Sadie Sink, in fact she looked average at best. But her orange hair put her on a pedestal that no one could reach.
Being different always equals rebellion.
It doesn’t matter the intensity in which it is done, you always rebel when you stray off course.
Think of those really minimalistic shops at the mall, the ones with just a table in the middle with a few pans on top, with bright colored walls.
Now I’m not sure if you’ve seen a shop like it, but man, that shop stuck in my mind for weeks.
It’s why we love seeing foreigners, and why we always stare when we see someone who’s incredibly tall or short.
But sometimes, the difference doesn’t have to be massive, it could be as small as switching to bangs, or getting a hair perm.
These small changes though, can and will be remembered by people, and will give you more attention than before.
And there’s a way to benefit from this.
How To Benefit From Novelty
Being different can benefit your lives a lot, which I have personally tested out myself.
Without much effort, by making un-orthodox jokes, doing unhinged activities and by being able to give out of the box answers, I have been able to retain a sort of magentism around me.
Not everyone likes it, nor does everyone find me cool, but one thing’s certain; I can turn heads.
And aesthetically, I’ve also softly switched up some things to reset.
I’ve switched out my tight pants for bulky cargos, I’ve gone from sporty shirts to slightly baggier ones, and I’ve even started using glasses.
Switching things up and being different shouldn’t just be for the appeal of others though, it should also quench your own thirst.
I switched out my style, read “cool” books, act unhinged not because I have to, but because I get bored easily.
You can apply novelty into things like reading, studying, and even routine.
Personally, I got bored of my routine, so I switched it out alongside my old ringtone.
As for studying, I got bored of studying to the same songs and pomodoro timer, so I applied new ones.
Keeping things novel can excite your lives and keep things fun.
Meet new people, new circles, and new ways to do something.
If you need to, go on that vacation, or go and hike that mountain.
Novelty can change your lives one way or another, and it can keep life interesting, and can act as motivation for yourself.
Short haired girls aren’t cool because they look prettier, but because they’re different, and we should all remember that the next time we see one.
“Variety is the very spice of life, that gives it all its flavor.”
– William Cowper
